Why the Best Revenge is Living Well

 

Many years ago, when I was in the middle of a painful breakup, my bestie Nicole gave me some great advice. She said, “The best revenge is living well.”

After the breakup with my boyfriend, I was devastated. Because I was hurting so much, I wanted him to be hurting too. I was focused on wanting him to feel as bad as I was feeling. I couldn’t see this in the moment, but this way of thinking was actually making me feel worse.

When I shared my feelings with Nicole, her advice became my mantra for getting over my breakup. It advice helped me realize that focusing on myself and how I was living was a better way to move on than continuing to focus on him.

No matter what kind of relationship you’ve ended—a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a professional relationship—staying focused on how the other person is feeling or doing will rarely serve you. It’s like being in a ghost relationship: the person is no longer there, but all of your energy is still being directed towards them.

Watch this week’s video to hear how living well can help you move on from a broken relationship.