Bad Things Happen to Good People

I was going through a bad breakup many years ago and was barely hanging on. I couldn’t sleep, eat or think. Read More

What I Did with the Money My Parents Were Saving for My Wedding

By my mid-twenties, I had graduated from law school and I was beginning to feel society’s pressure to settle down — to find a partner, get married, and start a family — but I was nowhere near ready to do that. Read More

What Happens When You Invite Your Community to Show Up for You

Sometimes we think that the communities we belong to and identify most closely with won't be there for us, but really, it is our self-limiting beliefs that are in our way.

Riding Life's Emotional Roller Coaster

Last weekend I found myself on a roller coaster of emotions. I experienced intense happiness, anger, sadness, and more within the span of just a few hours. Read More

What I’ve Learned About Infidelity

If you want to improve your romantic relationship or find the love you deeply desire, I recommend checking out the work of Esther Perel. Read More

How I Got Over My Fear of Speaking Up in Meetings

I make my living as a public speaker, travelling the world to address dozens of audiences every year—but there was a time when I was afraid of speaking up in meetings. Read More

Are You Chasing Love? Try Chasing Authenticity Instead

ust about everyone is looking for deep, meaningful, soulful love—but very few of us know how to find it. Read More

I Don’t Believe in Luck

Have you ever worked really hard on something and been rewarded for it, only to have the people around you tell you how lucky you are? Read More

Why We Should Stand in Our Power, Especially as Women of Color

As we learn to stand up for ourselves — to stand in our power — we claim the respect we deserve, which serves as an important building block for our self-esteem and self-worth. Read More

The Importance of Eye Contact

Several years ago, I sought advice from my therapist after a negative and upsetting speaking experience where I felt extremely disconnected from the audience. Read More

Flowing Between the Beauty and the Difficulty of Life

We live in a world that loves to categorize things as either/or. Too often, we forget about the “and.” Read More

If You Want to Create Your Own Destiny, Show the Eff Up

There’s a quote from one of my favorite books, Paulo Coehlo’s The Alchemist, that I love. Read More

Why the Best Revenge is Living Well

Many years ago, when I was in the middle of a painful breakup, my bestie Nicole gave me some great advice. She said, “The best revenge is living well.” Read More

Let’s Talk About Supremacy, Power, and Privilege

When many people hear the word “supremacy,” they instantly think of white hoods and the KKK. This is certainly one aspect of supremacy, but it’s not the whole story. Read More

When it Comes to Standing in My Power, Sorry, I Ain’t Sorry

I love Beyonce’s album Lemonade, especially one of the album’s lyrics: Sorry, I ain’t sorry. I love the power of these words, and I often find them dancing in my head… Read More

Indian Daughters, It's Time to Stop Living for Your Parents

I’ve had countless women reach out to me to share their stories since the launch of my book. Read More

My Culture Values Whiteness, But I Love My Brown Skin

Brown is beautiful. And as a darker, brown-skinned Punjabi woman, I say bring on the darker shades! Read More

Exhausted from Fighting Hate? Focus on Your Personal Power

As a diversity and inclusion consultant and empowerment speaker, I fight racism, sexism, and other forms of oppression for a living. Read More

The One Quality that Separates Doers from Dreamers

What separates the people who are very successful in reaching their goals from the people who aren’t? Read More

The 3 Things That Happen with Bias (And What to Do About Them)

There is a lot of talk these days about bias tied to cultural identities like race and gender—but for many people it’s unclear what bias is, how it works, and where it shows up. Read More

An Easy Technique for Responding to "Oh No You Didn't!" Moments

When someone says something racist, sexist, or otherwise offensive to us, we tend to freeze. I call these “Oh no you didn’t!” moments. Read More

The Small Act that Will Help Create a Kinder World

When a homeless person on the street asks you for money, do you acknowledge them? Read More

My Theory of How We Experience Heartache—and How to Avoid it

As someone who has had her heart broken more than most and who has spent a lot of time solo, I have a theory about what happens to us when we’re single. Read More

How to Live by the I Don’t Give an F Plan

I live by what I call the I Don’t Give an F Plan—and if you want to feel free, unencumbered, and empowered, this is the plan for you too. Read More

Why Immigrants Are the Original Environmentalists

In doing the self-reflection work that came along with this life shift, I realized that I’d been experiencing a lot of discomfort about several aspects of my identity growing up. Read More

If You’re Not Black, Don’t Use the N-Word

My cousin’s teenage daughter was recently hanging with some family friends her age when a boy in the group started using the N-word… Read More

Use Your Voice for #MeToo, No Matter Who You Are

In fall 2017 the #MeToo movement caught fire, and it’s been at the forefront of many of our minds ever since. Read More

Why I Care About Mental Health

A mental health researcher recently shared a fact with me that I’d never heard: that young South Asian women are at a higher risk for suicide and psychotic disorders. Read More

My Ethnic Identity Crisis

For many years, about once a year, I would find myself facing what I call an “ethnic identity crisis”—specifically, a feeling of being confused about who I was ethno-culturally . Read More

You’re Already an Entrepreneur—You Just Don’t Know It

I grew up believing that in order to have a stable career, I needed to be an employee. Read More

What It’s Like Having a “Hard-to-Pronounce” Name

If you have a name that’s hard to pronounce, you’ve probably gotten used to others saying it incorrectly. Maybe you’ve even changed your name to make it easier... Read more

Why You Should Think About Self-Love This Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a day for celebrating romantic love, (although, in my humble opinion, we should do this every day!). Read More