{"id":6488,"date":"2022-01-22T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-01-22T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.ritubhasin.com\/?p=6488"},"modified":"2022-02-18T20:04:40","modified_gmt":"2022-02-18T20:04:40","slug":"performing-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ritubhasin.com\/blog\/performing-self\/","title":{"rendered":"What is Your Performing Self?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p><figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"How to Stop Being Your Performing Self\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/1tFAU81kOmM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure><p>Imagine this scenario:<\/p><p>You\u2019re at the office and your colleagues are yukking it up about the big sports game that everyone but you seems to have watched the night before. You didn\u2019t watch it because (a) you\u2019re not a sports fan and (b) you had a big cultural celebration with your family. Because you\u2019ve never talked about your culture or how much you hate sports with your work colleagues before, but you also don\u2019t want to feel like the odd one (which you already do!), you smile and nod vigorously, and pretend to know what happened at the game. But you feel like crap as you do this.<\/p><p>Or how about this:<\/p><p>You\u2019re getting ready for an interview for your dream job. You\u2019ve been wearing your <a href=\"https:\/\/ritubhasin.com\/blog\/the-importance-of-hair-for-women-of-color\/\">hair naturally<\/a> for the past few weeks and loving it. You briefly consider keeping it that way for the interview, but you worry it might not be \u201cprofessional\u201d enough and that you won\u2019t be taken seriously. In the end you decide to straighten your hair for the interview in the hopes it\u2019ll help you land the job. You feel frustrated that you have to this, but you do it anyway.<\/p><p>If you can relate to either one of these scenarios, you\u2019re showing up as what I call your Performing Self. By \u201cperforming\u201d I mean that life is a stage and you\u2019re an actor on the stage, putting out a curated image of yourself. To put it simply, performing means that you\u2019re changing who you are and masking your Authentic Self to gain social acceptance even though you don\u2019t want to do this \u2014 and it feels awful to do!<\/p><p>I know firsthand how difficult it can be to perform all day long, day after day (as I laid out in my book, <em><a href=\"https:\/\/ritubhasin.com\/authenticity-principle\/\">The Authenticity Principle<\/a><\/em>). I struggled with being authentic for <a href=\"https:\/\/ritubhasin.com\/blog\/how-losing-my-identity-helped-me-find-my-truth\/\">years<\/a> because I was deflecting bias by putting out a curated image of myself and performing. It can feel disempowering and exhausting to constantly change how you dress, behave, speak, and more in order to <a href=\"https:\/\/ritubhasin.com\/blog\/why-fitting-in-is-different-than-belonging\/\">\u201cfit in\u201d<\/a>, or to shield against judgment or bias. So what can you do?<\/p><p>In this video, I share exactly how to push out of your Performing Self so that you can live your best, authentic life.<\/p><p>Watch now!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p class=\"\">I know firsthand how difficult it can be to perform all day long, day after day. It can feel disempowering and exhausting to constantly change how you dress, behave, speak, and more in order to \u201cfit in\u201d. 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