Stop Ghosting People, It’s Mean! Here’s What to Do Instead.
Ghosting is mean. Full stop. (When I say “ghosting,” I’m talking about the act of suddenly ending a relationship with someone by ending all communication and without giving any explanation, which happens a lot in the dating world.)
Back when I was single, I can remember experiences where I went out on a few dates with someone who I quite liked, but suddenly they went AWOL. Like crickets chirping AWOL. And, I gotta admit, it felt awful. It made me feel really insecure and unsure of myself, which is why I committed to never ghosting anyone myself.
Instead, I’d use language that my genius sister crafted, with someone I didn’t want to continue dating. (On a related note, if you haven’t already seen this, I also have a video where I explain how to figure out if you have a romantic connection with someone!) Watch this #AskRitu video for the language to use to end a dating experience, and for other things that you can do instead of ghosting!
Lastly, here’s a really important thing I’ve learned over my years of dating: if you’ve been ghosted, it doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you. It’s about the person who did the ghosting and their difficulty (likely due to their own insecurities and woundedness) in sharing their feelings and thoughts. And, not surprisingly, I’m going to end by saying cultivating self-love is key for healthy dating.