Find Your Clouds
I had just finished a stressful week of speaking engagements in the US and was about to launch into another crazy week ahead. I was feeling anxious, not to mention exhausted! I called my boyfriend to tell him how I was feeling and, being the amazing, patient person that he is, he calmed and reassured me.
On the plane ride home, I noticed a bright bed of clouds surrounding the plane. An instant feeling of warmth washed over me as the beautiful image reminded me of the incredible people I have in my life who are always there for me, especially when times are tough. As I pulled out my phone to take a picture of the clouds (the one included in this blog), I felt an overwhelming moment of gratitude for my pillars of support. I now call these people my “clouds.” When I think of them, I actually visualize myself falling onto a cloud, like I’m snuggling into the warm embrace of a loved one. And let me tell you, I am so grateful for mine.
I define “clouds” as the people around us who are kind, compassionate, empathetic and support us unconditionally. It’s important to have “clouds” in your life because they help both lift you up and keep you grounded. They are like a soft and comforting safety net, gently and generously supporting you through everything.
Life is both hard and beautiful; as we continuously flow between the two, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the moments of struggle. One of the ways I’ve found useful to help me through these trying situations is by sharing — an important part of self-care, which you know I am an advocate for. I’ve previously talked about the importance of sharing our feelings; if we share our pain with our “clouds,” it gives us a safe space to voice our concerns and opinions. Leaning on your support network can also help with relieving your emotional burdens, remind you of your purpose, and perhaps can even encourage you to find the motivation to keep pushing forward.
It’s important to identify the right “clouds” for you. They can be anyone in your life (your bestie, partner, or a family member) and could differ depending on the situation (someone you met at a support circle or hobby group, for example). The important thing is that you feel comfortable and secure with them and feel like you can be your most authentic self.
Some of you may already know who your “clouds” are, but if you don’t, I invite you to reflect on the last few times you confided in someone or sought advice.
• How did the conversation affect you?
• How do you feel when you talk to this person?
• Do they celebrate your wins with you?
• Do they speak truths or encourage you when you’re feeling insecure?
• Do they lift you up and make you feel better, even in a difficult situation?
By asking yourself these questions, you might discover patterns emerging and notice that some of your connections are more supportive than others. You will find your “clouds.” When you do, treasure them, because these are the people who have chosen to love you and will lift you up in the moments you need it the most.